5 wise lessons: what i wish i knew when i was younger
過來人的5句箴言：年輕的時(shí)候懂這些道理就好了
as i recently celebrated another year of life and am entering a new phase of mid-life (whatever that is) i began to contemplate the lessons that i would pass on to my younger self.
最近剛過完生日，人到中年，人生進(jìn)入了一個(gè)新的階段，我開始思索年輕時(shí)候的我學(xué)到的經(jīng)驗(yàn)教訓(xùn)。
whether you are young or young at heart, it is never too late to change — or incorporate some new (and better) practices into your daily life. here are 10 wise lessons that i wish i knew when i was younger:
不管你是真的風(fēng)華正茂，或是心態(tài)年輕，改變，或讓自己的生活吸收一些新的更好的嘗試，永遠(yuǎn)為時(shí)不晚。下面是我希望我在年輕的時(shí)候就懂得的10個(gè)道理：
1. don’t worry about what other people think of you.
走自己的路，讓別人去說吧。
i used to worry too much what others thought of me, of my decisions and of my actions. eventually, i came to realize that if you’re wasting too much time seeking validation, respect or approval from others, then you won’t have time to accomplish all that you desire. everyone has an opinion, but in reality other’s opinions of you are based more on their history and perceptions than anything you’re actually doing.
我總是會(huì)太過擔(dān)心別人對(duì)我的看法，他們會(huì)怎么看待我的決定和行為?我后來意識(shí)到，如果你把時(shí)間浪費(fèi)在尋求別人的認(rèn)可、尊重和支持，那你就根本無暇做你自己想做的事。人們都會(huì)有自己的看法，但實(shí)際上其他人對(duì)你的看法更多地基于他們自身的歷史和認(rèn)知，而并不是你實(shí)際在做的事情。
2. today is what’s important.
活在當(dāng)下。
enjoy every moment of today, because you are not guaranteed a tomorrow. don’t put off your dreams. don’t wait to do, try, enjoy all of those “someday” items. if it’s important to you, then do it today. pay attention to what is happening now, to the people around you, to the task at hand and to all of the choices you make today, big and small.
享受今天的每分每秒，因?yàn)槟銦o法保證明天就一定會(huì)到來。不要拖延自己的夢(mèng)想，別等到“將來某一天”再去做，去嘗試，去享受。如果真的很重要，那就只爭(zhēng)朝夕今天就做!關(guān)注正在發(fā)生的事情，身邊的人，手上的工作，關(guān)注今天做出的選擇，無論大小。
3. let it go.
學(xué)會(huì)放手。
what happened yesterday is over. those unmet expectations, difficult situations, failures and conflicts are in the past. you can’t change it, so let it go. don’t waste your energy dwelling on anger, resentment or disappointment. it only keeps you stuck in the past and holds you back from moving forward in your life.昨日種種譬如昨日死，那些沒有實(shí)現(xiàn)的期待，那些艱難困苦、失敗和沖突都已成為過去，你無力改變，所以干脆放手。別把自己的精力浪費(fèi)在糾結(jié)著生氣、憤恨和失望這些負(fù)面情緒上，這些只會(huì)讓你沉湎過去，讓你停滯不前。
4. it’s called work for a reason.
付出總會(huì)有回報(bào)。
success at anything takes work. when you hear about an overnight success story, don’t forget about all of the work that came before. you may have to do work you do not enjoy and trudge through the trenches of planning, building, refining, moving up, out, over and redefining before you get to the place where success clicks. keep going.
任何成功都需要付出勞動(dòng)。你所聽到的那些一夜成名的故事，不要忘記背后付出的所有勞動(dòng)和汗水。也許你得做無愛的工作，需要在計(jì)劃、構(gòu)建、修改、實(shí)施、再修改這一系列瑣碎的過程中艱難前行，直到突然有一天成功破天而降。繼續(xù)前進(jìn)不要停。
5. believe in yourself.
相信自己。
you are your own worst critic, and so can you be your own best supporter. if you do not have confidence in your own value, abilities and contribution, then nobody else will either. you must have faith in your intrinsic worth. we each have something to offer that is necessary and valuable, though we may not know what that something is.
你是自己最尖刻的批評(píng)家，也可以是自己最大的支持者。假如你對(duì)自己的價(jià)值、能力和貢獻(xiàn)都沒有信心，那么其他人更不會(huì)相信你。要對(duì)自己的內(nèi)在價(jià)值有絕對(duì)的信念。我們每個(gè)人身上都會(huì)有一些有價(jià)值的東西可以給予，可能我們自己都不知道。