Let's take steps to banish some of the most common negative thoughts many of us repeat to ourselves. Being in a negative space is harmful to our overall well-being, because what you dwell on can easily become self fulfilling if you don't change your mindset.
讓我們一起行動(dòng)起來(lái)，消滅那些我們經(jīng)常告訴自己的消極想法吧!如果你不改變想法，而是一味地沉浸在消極的念頭中，那么，我們的整個(gè)身心就會(huì)受到影響，因?yàn)?ldquo;噩夢(mèng)”也會(huì)成真。
1.I'm not good enough.
我不夠好。
This type of negative thought that can apply to many categories. Maybe you don't think you're a good enough mother or good at a sport. Even if you find yourself lacking in something, there's no need to keep repeating it to yourself. The human brain is an incredible thing. Be inspired by Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, Harvard-trained neuroscientist who suffered a stroke that left her unable to walk, read, write, talk, or remember her previous life. Dr. Taylor took eight years to recover and has since then written a best-selling book about her experience and appeared on Oprah. Keep on working toward something, and watch the leaps and bounds you'll make.
這種消極想法有很多類(lèi)型。比如你認(rèn)為自己不是個(gè)稱(chēng)職的媽媽或不擅長(zhǎng)運(yùn)動(dòng)。即使你真的發(fā)現(xiàn)了自己的弱點(diǎn)，也沒(méi)必要對(duì)自己不斷復(fù)述。人腦是神奇的。吉爾泰勒就是個(gè)激勵(lì)的好典型，她是哈佛大學(xué)的神經(jīng)系統(tǒng)學(xué)專(zhuān)家，中風(fēng)后她就失去了行走、閱讀、書(shū)寫(xiě)、交談的能力了，甚至還失憶了。她花了八年的時(shí)間復(fù)原，用自己的經(jīng)歷寫(xiě)了暢銷(xiāo)書(shū)，還上了奧普拉的節(jié)目。堅(jiān)持做一件事，親眼見(jiàn)證自己的變化。
2.No one cares about me.
沒(méi)人關(guān)心我。
To accurately say that your family and friends don't care about you would be a very rare situation. Maybe you're being too negative and overlooking the gestures of love they show you. They don't even have to be big gestures, but it's the little things they do for you that count. And people may be reacting to the energy you're putting out; perhaps you think they don't care about you so you don't make any effort in your relationships. Start showing people you care, so they can show you back in kind. And if you don't have good relationships with the people you know, what's stopping you from making new friends?
家人朋友都不關(guān)心你，這種情況其實(shí)不太常見(jiàn)。可能你過(guò)于消極的想法使你忽略了他們對(duì)你表達(dá)的愛(ài)。他們甚至并不需要為你做什么驚天動(dòng)地的大事，正是一些小事才真正打動(dòng)人心。或者你覺(jué)得沒(méi)人關(guān)心你，所以無(wú)需再經(jīng)營(yíng)人際關(guān)系，但其實(shí)也許人們只有在感知到你的付出后，才會(huì)對(duì)你進(jìn)行回報(bào);關(guān)心別人，別人才會(huì)關(guān)心你。如果你和周?chē)�人的關(guān)系處理不好，為何不結(jié)交些新朋友?
3.I really dislike this person.
我真的不喜歡這個(gè)人。
If you dislike a person in your work or personal life, focusing on her bad qualities is not going to make things better. You need to let go of your assumptions about her and know that she is human too, which means she makes mistakes. Either you move on and stop thinking and talking about her, or learn to approach her or think about her in a positive manner. Focus on her good qualities, and repeat them to yourself instead of honing in on the unpleasant things.
如果工作或生活中有你討厭的人，只關(guān)注她的缺點(diǎn)有害無(wú)益。你需要放下對(duì)她的所有成見(jiàn)，告訴自己她也是個(gè)人，也有犯錯(cuò)的時(shí)候。要么就不再談?wù)撍�和想著她，要么學(xué)著去接近她，或想想她好的一面。多想想她的優(yōu)點(diǎn)，不要再專(zhuān)注于讓你不開(kāi)心的事情。
4.Why is she better off?
為什么她比我好?
Comparing yourself to someone else is never productive or positive. There's always going to be someone who is younger, prettier, smarter, or richer than you. If you keep coveting what someone else has, then this may cause you to be resentful of them, which will open a whole other negative can of worms. Remember, what they don't have is your whole package. Be appreciative of what you have, because if you want to play the comparison game, remember that there are people who are also worse off than you are.
和別人比較永遠(yuǎn)不是有效率和積極的表現(xiàn)。總有比你年輕，漂亮，聰明，富有的人。如果你始終關(guān)注別人擁有什么，會(huì)帶來(lái)你對(duì)他們的恨意，隨即帶來(lái)更多消極的想法。記住，你所擁有的也是他們所沒(méi)有的。珍惜你所擁有的東西，如果真的想和別人比較，也別忘了總有比你差的人。
5.I'll never reach my goal.
我永遠(yuǎn)無(wú)法達(dá)到目標(biāo)。
If you think you're not going to be able "get there," think again. There are many people who are worse off and have overcome bigger obstacles than what you are facing. Take, for example, Olympic sprinter Oscar Pistorius, an amputee who overcame his handicap to compete in the Olympics against his able-bodied peers. Everything is within your reach as long as you work hard and have a a positive attitude.
如果你認(rèn)為自己達(dá)不到，再想想。比你差的人比比皆是，他們遇到的困難也比你的更大。比如，奧運(yùn)會(huì)短跑選手刀鋒戰(zhàn)士奧斯卡·皮斯托利斯，一個(gè)被截肢的運(yùn)動(dòng)員，戰(zhàn)勝了自己的阻礙，在其他健壯的對(duì)手中脫穎而出贏得了奧運(yùn)會(huì)的冠軍。只要你努力付出，有著積極的信念，任何事都能夠做到。